Beware: long-winded, over-thought, unpaid endorsement below. We took this course with a group of couples two years ago, and it transformed my thinking. Most commonly known as a marriage conference this course is applicable for anyone who happens to be in a relationship of any kind. It’s about people, people!
Seven Reasons You should Attend the Love and Respect Conference
(A List Compiled for both the Generously and Critically Minded)
1.Captivating Presentation. Emerson Eggerichs is a COMMUNICATOR. Like-next-stop-The-Second-City-level communicator. This is important because when there’s great content, with boring communication often all we remember is being bored. (Thank you PBS documenteries…)
2. Perfect Length: Friday night. Saturday morning. Just when you would be skipping a session to go shopping (we all do it) it’s over.
3. Destination: Williamsburg. Stuff like this is what this town LIVES for. Hotels, restaurants, horse drawn carriages, outlets, bed and breakfasts, pro sports (just getting your attention…)
4. Live Action. Now I love a good HD satellite telecast as much as the next girl, but you know that moment during a conference when you really start believing the speakers are in the building? This time they will be.
5. Striking Relevance. I just have this sense you will find the material applicable. Travis and I have known each other since we were six. I beat him in a spelling bee in first grade (spelling p-e-o-p-l-e, no less.) He (and Erin) beat me for Class Mayor in 2nd grade. He taught me how to change lanes using my mirrors when my parents had given up and I coached him on his high school graduation speech.
After 25 years of friendship, and nine years of marriage, we are relatively familiar with each other.
Yet, there are moments that we think (no, really, we yell) “Who are you?” …I confess this only because I suspect that you, no matter your history, probably face days (or weeks or months) in your marriage where there is more mystery than magic. And if you are like me you’ve spent some serious energy asking “ What’s wrong with me?”, or “What’s wrong with him?”
The Love and Respect conference generously and graciously explains what’s right with both of you and how to understand each other.
6. Freedom from Oppression (and the fear thereof) Like any 80’s-born, liberally –arts educated female, I entered marriage with one core fear: my husband would oppress me and lord his chauvinistic ways over me, trampling my spirit, and overriding my rights. (My husband is not a chauvinist and on any given day values relaxing over trampling my spirit and most other things.) But this kind of thinking went as far as to make me distrustful of words such as “respect,” dismissing concepts such as “Love and Respect” as “gendered” and inequitable – and getting me nowhere in my marriage.
My brain needed some rewiring. This was not a step backwards in women’s progression, it was a step towards a marriage that was loving (for all parties involved.) Imagine that.
7. Hope. I think somewhere along the way we give up hope. We don’t necessarily stop loving hard or trying hard but we give up hope that this could be better. That the sum of these two parts could equal more than just the two of us together, circling each other in chaos, with the occasional nice dinner out. And we give up hope, not because we don’t know where we want to be, but because we have no idea how to get there.
“Love and Respect” provides steps – steps to get us from here to there, steps to understanding our differences and our needs, steps to common language, and steps to conversations that can restore and heal and allow us to begin again.
Won’t you join us? February 24-25 at the Williamsburg Community Chapel. Bring your marriage – with your dreams, your dysfunction, and your disillusionment. Bring your friends. Don’t bring your kids, you need a break.
There will be fun. There will be laughter. There will be snacks. (For some of us, it’s the simple things…)
Be sure to say hello…I will be up front, furiously taking more notes.
Register by February 13 for an Early Bird Discount